Thursday, March 25, 2010

FW: The Cab Ride

I just received this email and smiled.

The Cab Ride

I arrived at the address and honked the horn. After waiting a few minutes I walked to the door and knocked.
'Just a minute', answered a frail, elderly voice. I could hear something being dragged across the floor.

After a long pause, the door opened. A small woman in her 90's stood before me. She was wearing a print dress and a pillbox hat with a veil pinned on it, like somebody out of a 1940's movie.

By her side was a small nylon suitcase. The apartment looked as if no one had lived in it for years. All the furniture was covered with sheets. There were no clocks on the walls, no knickknacks or utensils on the counters. In the corner was a cardboard box filled with photos and glassware.

'Would you carry my bag out to the car?' she said. I took the suitcase to the cab, then returned to assist the woman.

She took my arm and we walked slowly toward the curb. She kept thanking me for my kindness. 'It's nothing', I told her. 'I just try to treat my passengers the way I would want my mother treated'.

'Oh, you're such a good boy', she said. When we got in the cab, she gave me an address and then asked, 'Could you drive through downtown?'

'It's not the shortest way,' I answered quickly.

'Oh, I don't mind,' she said. 'I'm in no hurry. I'm on my way to a hospice'. I looked in the rear-view mirror. Her eyes were glistening. 'I don't have any family left,' she continued in a soft voice.'The doctor says I don't have very long.' I quietly reached over and shut off the meter.

'What route would you like me to take?' I asked.

For the next two hours, we drove through the city. She showed me the building where she had once worked as an elevator operator. We drove through the neighborhood where she and her husband had lived when they were newlyweds. She had me pull up in front of a furniture warehouse that had once been a ballroom where she had gone dancing as a girl. Sometimes she'd ask me to slow in front of a particular building or corner and would sit staring into the darkness, saying nothing.

As the first hint of sun was creasing the horizon, she suddenly said, 'I'm tired. Let's go now'.

We drove in silence to the address she had given me. It was a low building, like a small convalescent home, with a driveway that passed under a portico.Two orderlies came out to the cab as soon as we pulled up. They were solicitous and intent, watching her every move. They must have been expecting her.

I opened the trunk and took the small suitcase to the door. The woman was already seated in a wheelchair.

'How much do I owe you?' She asked, reaching into her purse.

'Nothing,' I said

'You have to make a living,' she answered.

'There are other passengers,' I responded.

Almost without thinking, I bent and gave her a hug. She held onto me tightly. 'You gave an old woman a little moment of joy,' she said. 'Thank you.'

I squeezed her hand, and then walked into the dim morning light.

Behind me, a door shut. It was the sound of the closing of a life.

I didn't pick up any more passengers that shift. I drove aimlessly lost in thought. For the rest of that day, I could hardly talk. What if that woman had gotten an angry driver, or one who was impatient to end his shift? What if I had refused to take the run, or had honked once, then driven away?

On a quick review, I don't think that I have done anything more important in my life. We're conditioned to think that our lives revolve around great moments. But great moments often catch us unaware - beautifully wrapped in what others may consider a small one.

People may not remember exactly what you did, or what you said, but they will always remember how you made them feel.

I love cute stories, but I love meaningful ones more. It always brightens up my day to hear you don't have to act like the crowd, there is nothing wrong with being a truly genuinely nice person. This email was not a forward to 10 people and your wish will come true in 10 minutes, it read:

You won't get any big surprise in 10 days if you send this to ten people. But, you might help make the world a little kinder and more compassionate by sending it on and reminding us that often it is the random acts of kindness that most benefit all of us.

At the end of the email was this nice little saying:
Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we are here we might as well dance.

Put on your dancing shoes and make the most of it.

Tuesday, March 16, 2010

New News

I have purchased for myself a wonderful, loving IPHONE!!!

I am in love with it - it does everything I need it to do and more. I have had it less than a week and every day I have been going on to iTunes and seeing what apps I can get. I am loving some of the free ones.

On Thursday I got my haircut. I look as super cute as ever! It is shorter and I now have a fringe. I have been meaning to get one for ages and finally went in to book an appointment. An hour later I was a new woman, per say.

Quick note = I bought an amazing new handbag on the weekend. It is perfect.

Last night, we sold our house. Mum didn't get quite what she wanted from it. But she's happy to have it out of the way.

I didn't get that position I mentioned at work, but I have been told they will start training me for another position. The other position is much more exciting and more challenging. Project Management. I am really looking forward to starting it. Although it will always be the same process, there will be a variety of projects to make my life interesting.

Yesterday I started working on a new project that I will inform you about later. It's for my dad and is the outcome of some advice I received from a friend. Fingers crossed it works out how I hope it does! Realistically it will just be for me, but it is always nice to share with others.

My brother is off to England in a months time, and then he'll be jumping across the ditch to New Jersey for another summer of being a camp instructor. Maybe Mum and I will meet up with him if we make it to the US this year. The other day I was sitting at work looking out at the sun, and for a few (very short minuscule) moments I missed the snow, although it may have been the people I missed.

I am very thankful this week is very quiet. Last week was a very packed week. Sunday evening we went round to my cousins house for dinner, Monday evening was Desperate Housewives and Brothers & Sisters Night, Tuesday we went to the Orbit Restaurant (a revolving restaurant at the top of the Sky Tower) for dinner with my Cousin and her partners family who were all up from Wellington for the Auckland Cup. Wednesday I caught up with a friend. Thursday we had a friend round for dinner. I finally got a night off on Friday so I wasted it by sitting in front of the TV, and then we had more people round for dinner. Hence why I am so thankful! It is also why I am going to stay at home every night this week, apart from Thursday and Friday. I need sleep!!!

Monday, March 8, 2010

An extraordinary time

They always say you don’t know what you’ve lost till it’s gone. They’re right. You do not know how much time you have let people consume of your life until they are gone. How much drama you have let yourself go through until they are gone. It hurts, but sometimes it is just easier to let someone go than to keep trying. Trying to keep them happy. Trying to make sure they are happy. Trying to make a friendship work on their terms.

How did this all happen? There is only so much a person can take until they decide it is not worth the time, the energy or the lack of sanity.

This may seem like a very deep and dark post. But it feels excellent to write in all down. The added relief.

Other than that I have been having a very nice time lately. I have applied for a position at my work that I would love. It is pretty much an entry level position in the area, but it would be an excellent stepping stone and amazing experience. I have caught up with quite a few old friends and been to some lovely parties.

I promise to give a better update later.

Later Days!!

Monday, March 1, 2010

Summer Lovin’

Two delightful weddings in fours weeks means a huge lack of sleep. Yes and two amazing brides, two handsome grooms, beautiful bridesmaids and dashing grooms men.

The first wedding was great, it would have been nice to have a weekend gap before the next Brides Hen Night but it just wouldn’t fit. Us girls spent the Brides “last night” as a single lady on a boat. We did lots of socializing, lots of dancing, played a few games and then got off the boat and headed into town for some more havoc. I managed to make it out in one piece, I do understand though that some of the ladies were a bit worse for wear.

The second wedding was eventful. The ceremony was stunning, another on a cliff top, looking out over the harbour. Following the ceremony all the guests made their way to the other side of the harbour for the reception while the bridal party hopped aboard a boat to be taken across. They didn’t make it. The boat got stuck 50 metres off the wharf and two hours later the bridal party were delivered to the reception by coast guard.

Once they finally arrived we finally got to eat! Starving was an understatement. The food was YUMMY, and the company wasn’t to shabby either. There were some laughs during the speeches and some stunning sentences. I had one problem with the night – Yet again I didn’t catch the bouquet!!!

Some of the bridal party and a few good friends stayed in the city that evening in a nice hotel, we partied till the early hours and woke up with 15 minutes until checkout. It was another weekend I will treasure for the years to come and it helped make February 2010 as great as the first two weekends.

Since the beginning of the year I have been going through my photos on my computer and choosing which ones to get printed. So far I have gone through my photos from my time in Idaho. I have gotten nearly 600 photos printed, my mission will be to put them into a photo album/photo albums. I’m not taking the word mission lightly in this case, I like certain things perfect in the weirdest way (even though I could win an award for the messiest organization), so once I collate the photos correctly I will then need to pick out albums, make name/date cards and so on, so forth etc. Wish me luck?